biggest insecurity of my life

Posted on 17th November, 2024, 12:28 AM

lately i’ve gained a lot of weight. i was never skinny but still i felt beautiful, but now whatever i wear i feel like i look ugly. my family members and relatives make fun of my appearance. how hard i try im not able to stay consistent and loose weight. people say that if i stay like this no one will marry me and whatever i wear nothing looks good on me. the thing that hurts the most is that my own family says all of this. it’s not like i don’t know or i don’t want to get slim, it’s just that whenever i try i just can not stay consistent. i get jealous of girls who are slim and look gorgeous in whatever they wear, boys get attracted to them. but whenever i think of myself i think that people must be judging me because if my appearance. even though i am a great person from inside they will never love me based on how i look. i have stopped going outside and i also don’t like to meet people because all they ever say after meeting me is “beta thora control karo”. my biggest insecurity about myself is now how i look :)

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First of all, **ghar walon ke raat mein khaane mein zeher mila do**. Kya karna hai aise ghar walon ka? And why are you even considering others' remarks regarding your body and appearance? People will love you based on your inner beauty, and no one is going to consider anything else, to be honest, if they really love you. Your family must be joking, and they are not being serious. They love you a lot. Secondly, the only thing that matters in this era is your career and health. So just focus on being healthy and successful. If you are healthy now, then it's okay; take those critics as compliments. They are not criticizing you; they are criticizing the Creator because you haven't made yourself. As a boy myself, I can say this: those girls are just pretty until men get their satisfaction. The moment men are done, they are ugly as hell. No one gives a damn about looks. Everyone needs someone who can understand them and stand by their side in turmoil. So, be that kind of person. If your weight is not too much—which I’m sure it is not—then take it as a compliment, sister. Those girls who are beautiful are often confused because they can’t tell who loves them for their heart or their body. You are pretty too. Don’t overthink this too much. Just focus on your career and health because, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. People are going to talk about something anyway. Just think about this: who’s going to remember you after you die? No one—literally no one. So, stop concerning yourself with the opinions of society. Imam Al-Ghazali "Do not lose your inward peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. Criticism is often a reflection of the critic's turmoil." Ali ibn Abi Talib (RA) "Do not be a slave to the beauty you see, for true beauty lies in the soul. Those who judge by looks are blind to the essence of humanity." Rumi "The soul has been given its own ears to hear things the mind does not understand. Let them hear your heart, not your face." Imam Al-Ghazali "External beauty fades, but inner virtue endures. Those who criticize appearance are shallow in their understanding of worth." Iqbal (Allama Muhammad Iqbal) "In the garden of existence, it is the fragrance of character that outlasts the petals of beauty."

Secondly, the only thing that matters in this era is your career and health. So just focus on being healthy and successful. If you are healthy now, then it's okay; take those critics as compliments. They are not criticizing you; they are criticizing the Creator because you haven't made yourself.

As a boy myself, I can say this: those girls are just pretty until men get their satisfaction. The moment men are done, they are ugly as hell. No one gives a damn about looks. Everyone needs someone who can understand them and stand by their side in turmoil. So, be that kind of person.

If your weight is not too much—which I’m sure it is not—then take it as a compliment, sister. Those girls who are beautiful are often confused because they can’t tell who loves them for their heart or their body. You are pretty too.

Don’t overthink this too much. Just focus on your career and health because, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. People are going to talk about something anyway. Just think about this: who’s going to remember you after you die? No one—literally no one. So, stop concerning yourself with the opinions of society.
Imam Al-Ghazali
"Do not lose your inward peace for anything whatsoever, even if your whole world seems upset. Criticism is often a reflection of the critic's turmoil."
Ali ibn Abi Talib (RA)
"Do not be a slave to the beauty you see, for true beauty lies in the soul. Those who judge by looks are blind to the essence of humanity."
Rumi
"The soul has been given its own ears to hear things the mind does not understand. Let them hear your heart, not your face."
Imam Al-Ghazali
"External beauty fades, but inner virtue endures. Those who criticize appearance are shallow in their understanding of worth."
Iqbal (Allama Muhammad Iqbal)
"In the garden of existence, it is the fragrance of character that outlasts the petals of beauty."